Why do you have a bad memory? Are you using that as an excuse or is it the “real deal”? Let’s continue to look at common excuses people use to forgo memory improvement (and whether they are good excuses or not!).
“I’m getting old/I’m just old.”
Once again we need to look at whether you have a bad memory in every situation or just some/most. I have a friend who is “elderly” (his words) who complained of a bad memory and was concerned about forgetfulness, especially around remembering whether he took his several-times-a-day medication.
Interestingly, though, he was easily able to remember the details of his friends’ families: whose kid had graduated from which college, whose grandchild was walking and talking up a storm, and any detail related to people.
Remembering what he had for breakfast or whether he had taken his morning walk, however, seemed beyond him.
This is a good example of remembering what we are interested in and what we focus on. For him, his personable nature made the details of his friends and their families memorable. Whether he took his morning pill or went for a walk yesterday were daily, unimportant details to him (but frustrating when he tried to recall them and couldn’t).
For him and many others, getting old means that some things (routine daily activities, what the weather was like, what to get at the grocery store) have lost their uniqueness so they aren’t paid attention to. The problem isn’t necessarily a recall problem, it’s all about focus and attention. (Though for good measure he has his memory checked with his primary care physician on occasion.)
If you feel you’re “old” or “getting older” look specifically at what you typically forget. Is it all areas of your life or just some? My latest memory book has quick, easy fixes for specific problem areas (a delightfully quick, easy, and fun way to remember whether you took your medicine or vitamin each day) and big-picture solutions for larger areas like how to improve your overall focus and pay attention better.
Here’s a new review of the book by someone who you might relate to:
If you struggle to remember in every area of your life please read the previous blog post which has three great tips on how to start your overall memory improvement journey. Click here for the blog post.
Next time we’ll look at another common excuse for forgetfulness and a “bad memory.” In the meantime use the information above to ensure you’re doing what you can to have a better memory now. Life is too short for a bad memory, especially when remembering well is so simple and easy.
For more easy ways to have a better memory please check out my book. It has short, easy-to-read and understand chapters filled with practical advice on working with your mind instead of against it to remember better in all areas of your life.